Who Are You Becoming?

And why this question matters more than “What’s next?”

At moments of transition—career changes, leadership challenges, relationships shifting—it’s tempting to reach for certainty.

We ask ourselves:
* What’s next?
* What should I do?
* How do I fix this?

But underneath it all, there’s a more powerful question:

Who am I becoming?

It’s a quieter, slower question—one that doesn’t rush to fix, but invites us to pause and listen inward.
To notice what’s no longer important—and what’s calling for attention.

Because while our circumstances might demand new strategies, our deeper work often invites new ways of being:
* Letting go of the parts of us that perform success instead of living authentically
* Disentangling our identity from external validation
* Reclaiming inner authority after years of outsourcing it to outside guidance

I currently see this with several coaching clients. Clients come to coaching in a time of transition, aware that they could keep doing “business as usual” and go after the next goal—or choose instead to make fuller contact with their whole self: the one who leads with authenticity, speaks with presence, and acts from values rather than pressure.

There’s nothing more delicious for a coach than supporting someone as they answer that deeper call.

That shift doesn’t come from pushing harder.
It comes from slowing down enough to hear what’s true now.

If you’re in a season of uncertainty, you don’t need all the answers.
But you can stay with the inquiry.

In times of uncertainty, “What’s next?” gives us motion.
But “Who am I becoming?” gives us direction.

If you’re standing at a threshold, this is your invitation to pause.
Not to rush ahead.
But to listen.
To notice what’s emerging.
To begin again—on purpose.

“Who am I becoming?” isn’t a puzzle to solve.
It’s a path to walk—deliberately, gently, with curiosity.