How The Three Instincts Shape The Way You Communicate (Part 2)

In Part 1, we explored how the Self-Preservation instinct influences communication through a lens of safety, sustainability, and practicality.

Now we turn to the Sexual instinct—the one fueled by intensity, depth, and a drive to go beyond one’s comfort zone.

Also called the "one-to-one" instinct, SX isn’t just about attraction or sex. It’s about energy and magnetism: a pull toward chemistry, resonance, and deep impact. People with a strong SX instinct often seek aliveness in interactions—and bring urgency or passion to their communication.

That can look like:

Strengths:
* Magnetic presence and dynamic expression
* Willingness to challenge or disrupt for the sake of growth
* Capacity to focus deeply on one person or idea

Challenges:
* Tendency to dominate or overwhelm in conversation
* Frustration when others don’t “match their energy”
* Prioritizing intensity over steadiness or inclusion

Ever found yourself lit up in a conversation with someone who speaks with conviction and depth—who pulls you in like you’re the only person in the room? That kind of presence often signals a strong SX instinct.

In communication, SX types may lead with boldness and seek to provoke a response—not to create conflict, but to spark new ideas and transformation. They may also feel restless or disengaged when things feel too flat, routine, or impersonal.

Under stress, this instinct can overextend: becoming reactive when the spark fades, or generating unnecessary intensity just to feel alive or elicit a response.

Do you recognize any of these SX patterns in yourself—or in someone you know?

Next up: how the Social instinct shapes communication through attunement to others, reading the room, and a drive to contribute.